If we say we love God but hate any of our brothers or sisters in his family, we are liars. If we don’t love someone we have seen, how can we love God? We have never even seen him. 1 John 4:20
My Before Christ (BC) Life
I spent most of my early adult life not speaking to my Dad. As a child, I knew him, but I never had a close relationship with him. I guess I felt I never really needed him, so I never reached out to my Dad. Interestingly, this was the way I saw God. I never thought I needed God; things were going well for me, so why make time for God? Consequently, I spent a number of years not understanding that I still had a right to love my Dad, despite the need for him.
Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. 1 John 4:7
A few weeks before my baptism, God put me to shame. I have always been a dreamer, but the weeks leading up to my baptism, my dreams were on point. I dreamt about people whom I disliked, those who caused me great distressed and those whom I judged.
“Don’t judge others, and God will not judge you. Don’t condemn others, and you will not be condemned. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven. Luke 6:37
Judging others prevented me from getting to know people for myself. It also limited my understanding of people and their situations; my judgements were based on my standards. My sister was brilliant at explaining this to me, she would say ” remember, not everyone thinks like you, you need to be open-minded”. My sister has a heart of gold! People just confides in her as she accepts you for who you are. I am happy that I can learn from her. Today, I ask the Holy Spirit to be my guide when it comes to understanding people. I also make a conscious effort to get to know others for myself.
Back to my dreams
Upon reflection, I do believe God wanted me to understand what baptism meant. If I am a child of God, I must love others. If I was to be made new, I had to leave the old me behind and understand what God was asking of me. This was the foundation of my new journey.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” 2 Corinthians 5:17
In the book of Exodus, Moses led the people of Israel out of Egypt and into the wilderness for forty years. Joshua then led the children of the Israelites into the promised land (Joshua 1-5). The children of the Israelites were physically fit, but not spiritually fit. In the promise land they turned to sin and worshipped idols. This shows the importance of having a sound foundation in the beginning of your Christian journey.
What is Love?
The Bible gives us a beautiful summary of what love should look like. Love is patient, it is kind, it is not jealous, it does not brag and it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not selfish, it cannot be made angry easily. Love does not remember the wrongs done against it ( 1 Corinthians 13;4-5). This is the kind of love God has for us! This is the love he hopes for us to have for others. I must admit, I still struggle to forget past wrongs. Thankfully, we have a helper in the Holy Spirit who will teach us how to deal with the areas which we struggle with.
I spent a few weeks reaching out to people. I am not saying that I called everyone on my “enemy” list to ask for forgiveness. There are some cases which we can pray about and ask God’s forgiveness. On the other hand, there are some cases that require confession ; those are the difficult ones. The one where you see your enemy walking towards you, so you quickly take out your phone to have a pretend conversation with yourself! You’re praying that your phone is truly on vibrate, just in case someone decided it was the perfect time to call you! Yes, I was the Queen of this in my BC days. That’s the case I’m talking about. This is the one that will take the life out of you!
Loving your enemies a heavenly assignment
I strongly believe that loving your enemies can potentially be your ticket to heaven. Your most difficult assignments produce the greatest rewards. It takes all your strength and courage, but it is the heavenly assignment that will make you new. It will tick all the boxes needed to get into heaven!
To make peace with the enemy, you need to meet them overdressed. You must be ready to fight for your place in the kingdom. You must put on the armour of peace! Patience must be your weapon and kindness your undergarment. From head to toe, you should be dressed in humility and your face must show remorse. You must be clothed with wisdom and have a listening ear. Your headpiece must be adorned with understanding and this is the only time you will need cupid’s arrow! In your left hand, you must hold the key to forgiveness and your right hand must be left empty. That right hand will be the hand extended to make peace with your brother. I promise you, this is how you win the war! This is how you get into heaven 🙂
Tonight, I don’t know who has wronged you. Probably your friend did not support you in your new business venture. Maybe you blame your parents for not caring for you as they should. You may have wronged others and you’re afraid to challenge this situation. Maybe, you blame your spouse for something that has happened in your past. It could be that you’re waiting for an apology that’s long overdue or you’re struggling to love and forgive yourself.
I pray that you can find it in your hearts to forgive those who have wronged you and to forgive yourself. The Bible says we must also confess our sins unto each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective (James 5:16)
Tonight, empty that hatred from your heart! God wants to refill that space with joy and peace. He wants to bless you abundantly, but you need to let go. You are blocking your blessings if your heart is closed! Tonight, if you truly say you love God, you must open your heart to receive healing from God and be prepared to love others again.
Do this and tonight you WILL sleep 🙂